In today's Miss Manners column, advice columnist Judith Martin responds to someone who is afraid their wedding invitations ...

GENTLE READER: It is not actually a gift-grab, because giving presents is always voluntary -- especially when one is not ...

Are some invitations just a "gift grab"? Probably. But many people honestly just want the pleasure of your company.

It is true that it is customary for guests who care enough about the couple to attend the wedding to also give presents. But ...